THE LATEST BLOG FROM MATT HARDY
- 02/05/2007 (8:00:55 am)
- Georgiann Makropoulos
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This is the latest blog from Matt Hardy, well worth reading. And don't forget he and Jeff will be in White Plains on February 9th. February 9th - MATT & JEFF HARDY will be signing autographs @ Westchester County Center - 198 Central Avenue, White Plains, NY from 6 to 8 PM. Call 914-995-4050.. Georgie [email protected] February 4, 2007 - Sunday - 4:42 AM |
| My thoughts on being at peace with yourself and closure |
Hello my amigos! I hope this blog finds all of you in great health and good spirits. It's late, I'm tired--but I felt compelled to write a little tonight. Last night I was talking to a very dear friend about "closure". You know, the process of putting finality on a given situation--usually a tough, shitty situation. So my friend explained her situation to me, and I offered my opinions on what I thought she should do to find closure on this particularly painful situation. Because closure is very important in keeping your sanity and moving on into the next scenario in your life. The following is my experience and generalized feelings on trying to find closure. I remember back when Amy (Lita) and I lived together and everything was more or less perfect--from my job to my health to my family and friends. Everyday was fun, easy, and simple. My permanent house was built, I was with the woman I always wanted to be with, I had achieved great career success, and I had a high level of security on several levels. I remember driving around in my car and taking the time to breathe slowly and calmly--being able to "smell the roses", so to say. I remember thinking this particular thought time and time again--"My life is so nice and easy, I love living my life". This feeling that I had was due to me being "at peace with myself". During that time, I had no real problems, no stress, and no drama. My stress levels had to be in the negatives during those days...I was so incredibly "at peace with myself". As we all know (most of us anyway), my feelings of peace and tranquility would end around February of 2005. Amy and I obviously went different directions in life, but there were so many variables involved that I was constantly on an emotional roller coaster. I just keep trying to either make us work, or to understand it was definitely over--I just needed a path to take. It was the first time in my life I was struggling to find closure. There were so many issues I couldn't control, couldn't understand, and I was directionless for the first time in my entire life. I eventually did find closure--but I also found the true meaning of being "at peace with yourself". If you find yourself in a tough situation, you first have to evaluate all the variables that are involved. Get rid of the people or things that make you negative, or that are negative towards you. Migrate towards the people and things that are safe, secure, and that are good for you. Hold good, loyal, respectful people as close to you as you can--there's not an excess of them in the world. If someone is being dishonest with you and/or reckless with you emotions, get away from this person unless they change their ways. If you decide you have to break away and remove yourself from a friend or lover, it's often hard to do. There's no physical switch to flip when it comes to feelings and love. You just can't turn these things off instantaneously. Think with your head, not your heart when it comes to situations similar to this. You have to be honest with yourself about what is truly good for you, not what feels good for you at that very moment. If you doubt someone's sincerity, that's a pretty good instinctually sign that something is suspect. It's real easy to take someone for granted when you know their gonna be there regardless of what you do. DON'T take that type of person for granted--because that type of person is hard to find--respect and appreciate that quality. After evaluating all the variables involved, make a decision and stick with it. Give it everything you have, only focus on your choice. If you made a wise, correct choice, your total dedication and devotion should make things work. If you can get to a harmonic relationship, the other things in life should be a piece of cake. When you learn to take charge and be in control in your life, no one can stop your personal success. But a relationship is a shared responsibility between two people, who control it dually, not individually. That's where the problems usually come in. If you can find your "team" or "unit" groove in a relationship though, you'll find that you are truly "at peace with yourself". If the relationship needs to end and you decide to walk alone, you'll eventually be "at peace with yourself". You'll be mentally and emotionally healthy when you heal from leaving a counter-productive relationship. As much as people want to follow their hearts, you'll only keep you're sanity if you follow your brain. It's hard to do, but it's the right thing to do. Don't make yourself miserable, find your peace of mind and soul, find closure. Trust me on this one. And just for the record, Amy and I are friends and fine with one another. Amy Dumas is a wonderful person who, like any of us, has had her ups and downs. I wish the best for her--and I am always glad to know she's healthy and happy. I can't and won't forget the amazing and wonderful experiences we shared together. The last couple of times I've spoken to her, she's been extremely proud and excited about her musical project, The Luchagors. If you have a chance, check out the bands myspace page at www.myspace.com/theluchagors13. I'm glad she's found a current niche in life and having fun with it. I hope each and every one of you guys can enjoy your lives to the fullest and also be "at peace with yourself". It all starts with you making the best choices in life for you and your loved ones. And if there's problems that have to be addressed, or loose ends that need to be tied up--take care of them. Get closure. Be able to move on and feel good about doing it. Be well, and until then... Matt |
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